You will find directions on your paperwork if you have downloaded it from the Appt / Paperwork page. Our address is 9623 32nd ST SE,
A lot is happening in the research and study of depression. By looking at imaging of the brain, we can see that depression involves neurotransmitters of Seratonin, Dopamine, and Norepinephrine. This is the medication that helps to adjust these chemical processes. While medication can be helpful, there are a lot of concerns about side effects. We know that “interpersonal counseling” and “cognitive behavioral therapy” is just as effective, if not more effective than antidepressants. Some of the latest thinking is that treatment for depression involves growing brain cells. This would explain why antidepressants take about 5 weeks to work because that is how long it takes for a new brain cell to grow. It also explains why “going to Hawaii,” “learning a new skill,” and “changing how one believes” makes us feel better. It appears the more we use our brains, they better off we are. People often complain when suffering from depression that they can’t stop thinking negative thoughts–a one track mind. Studies have shown that there are certain exercises and workbooks that help people rearrange their thinking, that in turn give them freedom from depression. The results of the methods have shown positive lasting benefits as long as 2 years. Neurofeedback which I offer is helpful as well. Many of our clients are happy with the results of training to increase their brain functioning. See the neurofeedback system I use, Brainpaint. Go to Brainpaint.com
Marriage counseling is really different from individual counseling. In individual counseling, the person is seen by themselves usually and the focus is on the intrapsychic issues, that is their thinking, their feelings, and their own issues. In marital counseling, the focus is on the system or “the dance” that they do. We see the “marriage” as “the client,” rather than two individuals. The sum is greater than each of the parts. Couples come to therapy usually with some kind of communication block. Hurt, frustration, distrust and continuous arguments can cause a couple to seek counseling. The therapist helps them identify the type of dance that they do. They do the dance unconsciously. One may over-function, while the other under-functions. Or is it that the under-functioning one causes the other to over-function. Systems theory answers with, “yes.” They both influence each other rather than “cause” the problem. The dance itself is the problem.
They might be headed for separation and divorce, and see the other as “the problem.” Little do they realize that they are taking their part of the dance with them. Without help, they are very likely to get into the same kind of dance, just with a different dancing partner. Once they identify their part in the dance, the therapist helps them make conscious changes in the pattern. If one gets angrier than the other, then they might try to switch their roles a little. One may feel 150% of the anger while the other only feels 50%. They could work together to channel their anger into making constructive changes rather than take it out on each other. Then the therapist helps them stabilize the new pattern. This is why marital therapy usually takes a 3-4 month commitment to see real change. Of course, people don’t commit until they have established a rapport with the therapist and have decided for themselves that this is the course of treatment for them.
9623 32nd St SE A110
Lake Stevens, WA 98258